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Shirley Strawberry signs copies of her new book The Strawberry Letter: Real Talk, Real Advice, Because Bitterness Isn't Sexy at Barnes & Noble in Philadelphia on 4/6/11.
Dear Steve and Shirley,
My husband and I have been married for 6 years. When we were dating having kids was mentioned but not before 30. Well we got pregnant at 25 and had our son at 26. We knew for sure that we were done because one child was all we wanted. At 3 my son began attending a school structured daycare where he was now around other kids and began to ask for a sister or a brother. My husband and I kind of just blew it off. Eventually I began to feel guilty and wanted to have a sibling for my son so we discussed it and I had my birth control removed. We tried to get pregnant for a year but it kept failing with miscarriages. The last pregnancy was going great until my husband sat me down and said that he really did not want any more kids. Just to throw this in there...this is at a time where he was losing his job and we were panicking how we were going to make it. Instantly I got mad because we had been trying for a year and I didn’t understand why he didn’t say this before I removed the birth control. So we decided on abortion. (Bad decision) I was torn and felt that I should have just gone with my gut and had the baby even if it meant losing him. I went along with it because I thought the baby and financials would have ruined our marriage, and I didn’t want the burden. I told him afterwards that I wasn’t getting on anymore birth control, and if he didn’t want kids that bad he would do something on his end so he got a vasectomy. Now 2yrs later, and my son being 6 I still want him to have a sibling. We are living in a state where neither one of us is from and have zero family due to us being prior military. My son has no one to grow up with. I recently brought this subject up, and feel strong behind my decision. My husband feels bad but he still does not want this. This subject makes me sad. I am hurt, and I feel I am failing my son. Should he get a reversed vasectomy or should I just live it alone? Divorcing is not an option.
I have a guy friend and we had admired each other for ten years. During the ten years friendship he was involved with someone else and I was in a dysfunctional relationship. He would always make moves on me whenever we would see each other out. I stayed clear of him because I knew him and his partner were swingers. Two years ago after I was a one year out of my dysfunctional relationship. We started seeing each other. He said he was out of his relationship as well. I explain to him that I was not into the swinging thing nor would I tolerate cheating. One year after us dating I happen to discover by accident via social media, that he was involved with another woman. I shut it down! I sent the other woman a message just to alert her the man that she's madly in love with sleeps in my bed four nights a week and it's four nights of sheet action! I sent her this message not to hurt her but to alert her, AIDS is real! I then told him to never contact me ever again. Six weeks after this took place I ran into him in the grocery store. He begged and pleaded with me that he loved me and missed me and that he would do whatever it takes to get me back. I have always thought a lot of this man! He loves and admires his mother and siblings. He handles his business as a man. He has a good job, a college graduate, a frat brother and good family back ground. Needless to say later on that day I decided to check out the social media that I discover his involvement with another woman. To my surprise they are engaged to get married! The moral of this story is I have slept with him a couple times since I discovered the engagement. I really don't want him and the sex was okay. I really can't tell you why I slept with him after the facts. Now he's engaged and told me that she wanted to get engage to make someone else jealous! Lol! In my mind I just wanted to turn him out and forget him. Now he call's me from blocked numbers, morning, noon and night! When I do answer he acts as if everything is cool and that he's not engaged. He will not stop calling me! Perhaps I am to blame! I should have Never Slept with him again. How do I get rid of this man!
I am a 45 year married man with two beautiful girls. I’ve been married for 15 years, most of them happy but now feel worn out and angry. I want a divorce but I can't tell her yet because she has been unemployed for about a year. My wife is a spoiled brat and always wants her way. She doesn't compromise, doesn't pay attention to my emotional needs, and always thinks she is right. Although I don’t want to be married to her anymore, I still care about her and think she is a good mother, attractive, classy, and intelligent. She was the breadwinner and because of this I don’t think I got the respect I deserved. I have catered to her during our marriage because I enjoyed seeing her happy but she takes me for granted and I won’t tolerate this anymore. I have told her that I’m not happy but she only seems to care about herself and what she wants to do. She’s okay and doesn’t see anything wrong with our marriage. I am leaving once she gets a new career because I know she won't change. I became a Correctional Officer a couple of years ago, when the economy got bad and I lost my job. My wife keeps saying that I am now mean and cranky and blames it on working in the prison and everything else but her. It has nothing to do with my job. In fact, I enjoy my job especially after being out of work for almost a year. I keep telling her it is because of her selfishness but she is determined to blame it on me. This really pisses me off! She convinced me to try marriage counseling but nothing has changed and the counselor sucked. He said that no one else is responsible for our happiness. That’s BS! I am a family-man and love my kids but I’m worn out and refuse to take this anymore! Is it wrong to divorce when you become this unhappily married?
Worn Out Husband!
Dear Steve and Shirley,
I been dating this older man he is now 43 and I am 24. I thought things would be smooth sailing because he's older but they're not it's the worst relationship I've ever been in. We break up often and whenever I do leave he stalks me he once got arrested for peeping into my bedroom window and on another occasion he cut the wires to the fan and hose on my brand new car (needless to say I don't have that car anymore). i work with law enforcement and has recently found out he tried to make me lose my job but still like a dummy I go back feeling sorry for him when he begs. I know I don't need him and I'm not an ugly girl I have a future and I think he's trying to destroy it. I wanna leave him but I'm afraid he will never let that happen...What Should I Do With My Crazy Old Man???
I am a 24 year old mother of one who is planning to graduate in a few months. I have just recently ended a 2 year relationship with a friend of mine. We began the relationship with sex but it evolved into so much more because he began to steal from me and I wanted to know why. After a while he told me that he had been tossed around became homeless and even been forced to stand naked in front of his family while singing. We were able to make it to 2 years because I am not a materialistic person and I understand that things can be replaced; people cannot. We finally broke off our 2 year relationship in July of this year because he will not get a job or help (although he claims he wants it.) We recently broke off our friendship because he stole my EBT card and I ended up blaming it on a good friend who would never steal from me. Now I know it was good for us to part ways but my question is: Can he be helped or is he too far gone for help or should I not even worry and move on? I've tried to be there for him but whenever I am like a thief in the night he steals from me again. This is truly embarrassing to me so I had to let it go. I've done what I could but is there any advice that you can provide for him?