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My uncle is married with a wife and six children, three of kids are daughters. He grew up in Chicago Housing Projects. He obtained gainful employment and moved his family out of the projects into a better living situation. He’s been on the job for eight years and his wife is employed. The children are all doing above average in school. He’s a good provider for his family. However, when I come to his house the way he talks to his daughters makes me cringe and is upsetting! His b_ _ch training program started when his youngest was five, middle seven, and oldest at ten years old. He calls them b_ _ches throughout his conversations with them. These are examples of his interactions with them. B_ _ch go to the refrigerator and get my beer, b_ _ch sweep this floor, b_ _ch take this five dollars and go to the store, and come here b_ _ch etc. Watching them smile when their dad says this to them is interesting to say the least. He says his reasoning for calling them b_ _ches repeatedly is to get them use to it so when others call them b_ _ches it won’t bother them because they will be use to it. He says it works because when he was growing up his mother would call his brothers and sisters names and when she would get angry grab her crotch and repeatedly tell them to kiss her butt. You read it correctly. He contributes that to helping him not respond to name calling. Having daughters of my own, this technique is unacceptable but you can’t change how another man runs his home. Should I stop being concerned about it?
Dear Shirley and Steve'
I am in a really tough spot. (I am changing some of the details in this letter because my husband loves your show.) My husband and I have been married for seven years. We have been trying to have a baby for the last five years. I have gone to a specialist, I have taken drugs and supplements trying to get pregnant. I thought that maybe it was him that had the problem but he assured me that it was not him seeing that he has a son from a previous relatationship. I asked if there could be a problem with the parenity of his son and he cussed me out saying that his son looks exactly like him and his ex-girl. They were high school sweethearts and that she would not have cheated on him. I must admit that his son looks just like him so I let it go. Two years ago his cousin moved in with us. His cousin is from Europe and felt like there was more jobs available in the US where we live. I agreed to let him come stay with us for six months until he got on his feet. At first it was great having him live with us. He immediately found a job and he was able to help us with a lot of the bills. I was also able to quit my job and return to school to get my master degree. He works third shift. My husband works first in his own business he says we will be millionaires by the time we turn 35. I go to school in the evenings. I would get up in the morning and cook breakfast for my husband before he left for work and I would make sure his "cousin" would have breakfast also. His "cousin" would always make comments like "you are a great wife," "I hope when I find a wife she is like you" I would laugh it off and introduce him to friends and family memebers hoping he would find him a good wife. He would alway buy me clothes, gifts leave me extra money basically anything I wanted. Looking back now I see how he would study me and meet my every need. One morning my husband and I got into a big fight about money. When his "cousin" came home I was a mess, I cried and poured my heart out to him. He began to hold me and one thing led to another and we end up sleeping together. He became like a drug to me. I love my husband but I am obessed with his "cousin." I found out last month that I am pregnant and my husband is so happy but I am afraid that the baby is not his. I talked to his "cousin" and he told me that my husband's first child is not my husband's but the baby belongs to him as well. I was crushed, I asked him if he slept with all of his cousin's lovers and he said yes most of them. He said that my husband's problem is he worries about providing for his family rather than enjoying his family. I asked him if they had ever fought about this and he said my husband is clueless. I believe this because not once has he ever questioned our behavior. I told him that now that he has a job it is time for him to go. My husband is mad at me for insisting that he leave saying I should let him stay thru the holidays and now that I am pregnant he can help out with the baby. I want to tell my husband about all of this but his "cousin" said why ruin his happiness. We are happy and my husband is lavishing me with everything I want now that I am pregnant. I just hate all of the lies and I still can't keep my hands off of his "cousin." I just need to know what should I do? I have not told anyone not even my best friend. Everyone thinks that my husband and I have the prefect relationship. What's going to happen when he wants another child? He has already hinted at this. I told him we will have to see how this goes first. How can I tell him that his "cousin" is the father of both of his children? His "cousin" does not have any other children. He says he will take it to his grave. I don't want to hurt anyone but he needs to know. My husband even thinks that because his "cousin" does not have children that we should allow him to be the god father. This made me mad. My husband can't be this stupid.
Hi Steve and Shirley,
I writing this letter to you guys before I do something stupid. Well not to long ago my wife told me she had sex with a older co worker on an old job. I was very hurt when she told me this and who the guy was because it was a guy I thought she was just friends with on the job. He was a guy who had been in an accident and was going through a hard time. I never thought my wife would step out on me. I respect her for telling me and she told me it was because I was not around and making her feel like a woman. She told me it was a one time thing but I can't seem to get over it. I have been following this guy for over 9 months now studying when he goes to work and etc. I about at the point I'm ready to go rambo on his behind to make him feel the pain and hurt I feel... I love my wife and divorce is out the question but beating his behind for enjoyment is a must. So tell me what would you do? I guess first 48 and carol mason will see me here in memphis soon if I don't get myself under control....
Rambo his punk behind!!!!!!
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Well hello there Steve and Shirley,
I am a 24 year old lady who has changed my life around but I have a slight issue. I attend church every week and I love it but at times it gets uncomfortable because there is a man who also attends my church home regularly who just wont stop staring at me. Now I don't want to state my name for personal reasons but I hope if he is listening then my letter will make him think twice about looking because Steve and Shirley, he is married. I didnt want to just go up to the man and ask him if he would please stop staring because realistically that would make me look like I'm guilty of wanting him when that is most definitely NOT the case. I know that he and his wife had been going through problems in their marriage that only God can fix and I mean major problems. I dont want him to think that just because he is going through problems in his marriage he can keep giving me these lustful looks because if he tries to come on to me, service will end before its suppose to because I'm not having that. I guess my questions to you about what I am in need of help with is: 1) How do I react if he does come on to me & do I tell his wife? 2) Do I bring it to my Bishop so he can sit him down? 3)Do I set it off up in church because he got me mistaken with what we young folks call fluzies?
Hello Steve Harvey Morning show crew!
I've been with my man on and off for 14 years. 4 years ago during a break up, he had a set of twins that we are now raising together. He works a regular 9 to 5 job that's 10 mins away but gets home after 6 daily. As for me, I work the grave yard shift starting at 1 a.m. to 9 a.m. I leave work, pick up the twins and keep them all day. When he gets home he makes a drink and find something to do other than spend time with the twins. If and when he cooks he has the nerve to cook food the babies can't eat because he cooks everything loaded with hot peppers. He said, if they're hungry enough they'll eat know matter how spicy it is. He also claims he can't watch the twins and cook at the same time, another excuse to keep them out of his way. He comes home to a clean house every day and heads to work leaving it a mess. We agreed I wouldn't complain about the mess and clean daily if he gives me an massage once a week...that was a joke! I'm still waiting! And the killer..the twins and I sleep in separate rooms, before I leave for work I lay them quietly by his side. I'm a house wife that pays half the rent, cleans the house and watches the kids. Did I mention there is no sex life! This man has cheated on me, stole from me, allowed his oldest child to steal and disrespect me. We don't go out together, we don't even watch tv together. When I complain about our situation he says, "where are you going to live and not have to pay on the water, gas, and electric bills. I'm not getting any younger, is it time to walk away! Am I being pimped!?