Check out the picture from the Steve Harvey Turkey Giveaway at Bright Hope Baptist Church.
Steve Harvey comes to Philadelphia!
Shirley Strawberry signs copies of her new book The Strawberry Letter: Real Talk, Real Advice, Because Bitterness Isn't Sexy at Barnes & Noble in Philadelphia on 4/6/11.
Hello Steve & Shirley,
I'm a 29 year old female with a big problem. I have been in a long term relationship with a great guy. My problem is not with him. The problem is me. I have stepped outside the relationship twice. The first time was five years ago. I was in college and I took this guys virginity (BIG MISTAKE). After our encounter, he wanted me to leave my boyfriend and be his girl but I didn't want to. I loved my man and I was just having fun during my college years. The 2nd time was about 3 years ago. I met this guy just to have some fun and now he wants to be with me. He is in love with me. He wants to marry me. What am I doing to these guys? I don't try to hook these men but it just happens. Recently, my ex boyfriend from high school has contacted me and now he wants to rekindle what we once had. I don't know what to do. I don't want to hurt these men feelings. The relationship I'm in now is rocky because he is broke and he is still trying to figure out who he is as a man. He is a college graduate but he can't provide for us financially. I'm an CEO executive assistant and I try to be supportive until he finds a job but it is hard when I have so many other options to choose from (Entrepreneurs, Vice Presidents, Police Officers.) I'm not a whore. I just like the attention I get from men. My boyfriend doesn't show me the type of attention I like. Not necessarily in the bed (no problems there.) It is the little things. With the other men I like the obsession they have for me and I don't even try to turn them on. I can just be in their presence and I can sense their thirst for me. I love that! Even from the guys that don't have a chance in hell to be with me. I love that attention but I never wanted them to fall in love with me. What to do?
Every Mans Fantasy!!!
Dear Steve and Shirley,
I am a 35 year old single mother of one. I recently was reunited with my first sweetheart. It's been years since we have talked. Long story short we pretty much started where we left off with the mutual promise we would not catch feelings. Our outings usually end at my place watching movies but only when my son is with his dad. We have been having "controlled" unprotected sex for a few weeks now. It doesn't bother me but lately I have been thinking about having another child but had always said one "baby daddy" is enough and wasn't going to put myself through the stress of dealing with two men. Unfortunately, the bridge between my son's father and I has been demolished with no chance of reconstruction. Long story short he has been making little comments like what if I forget. I tell him he knows his body better than me so as responsible adults we should go back to using protection cause I don't like surprises that could be prevented. But the other day we didn't have any and we did it and the rest is obvious. He is a great guy and I feel it would work but how do I tell him I'm falling for him all over again without pushing him away.
In love and confused
Dear Steve and Shirley,
I'm a 25 year old lesbian and I have been with my girlfriend for over a year and I have an apartment with her. My girlfriend is bi-sexual and still likes men. When we met I allowed her to have sex with the dude to satisfy her needs that I couldn't meet. But it has gotten to the point to where it is getting old. I allowed her to do it long enough but now I want her to be fully committed to me and she feels that it's fine and she is committed. She is my first love and I love her so much but I just can't see us doing this for another year. She wants to have sex at home in our bed with the dude, so I allowed that. Even though it hurts, I put my happiness aside to to make her happy but it is getting old and she gets angry when I ask when is this is going to end. She just says, if you can't handle it, leave. Steve and Shirley, what do I do? I love her and want us to be together for a long time but I don't know what to do. It hurts.
Two years ago I met this guy he is 65 and I am 24. He buys me whatever I want! Clothes, shoes and jewelry, just anything. He keeps my bank account right and pays all my bills from car note to rent. All we do is meet up twice a week and half of the time he can’t have sex so it is really like free money. He is married but that doesn't bother me and it clearly doesn't bother him. Recently like five months ago I met another man closer to my age and he doesn't do half of what the other guy does but I like him. We even talk about marriage. Recently, he took me to a family function to meet his family and to my surprise my sugar daddy is his step dad. He didn't say anything and I sure didn't either. I don't know if I should tell him or just leave the situation alone all together.
Dear Steve and Shirley,
At this very moment, I'm hurting like I've never hurt before. After 8 years, my boyfriend says it's over. I love him sooo much. He is the reason for me living. I was sexuality abused growing up. My uncle even made a sexual advance toward me, dying in the hospital. I've been married twice and both ended, due to the anger I've held. My boyfriend has helped me overcome the majority of my issues but I still have some issues. My last husband refuses to sign divorce papers in which I filled in 2007. He said he would make me suffer. Now its 2013 and I'm still married. I don't have funds to pursue it more. My current boyfriend has given up on me because I'm not divorced. I can't carry a child for him I've had numerous miscarriages. My first husband was gay and the second didn't want children. I was bitter and took my current man for granted. All the while he was there for me. I was in corporate America for 20 years and I lost my job due to merger. He followed me around the world to pursue my dreams. He is 13 years younger than I am. I am sorry and I need him but he says he has sacrificed too much for me to treat him poorly. He wants out. Please help.