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Strawberry Letter- Marriage Is A Journey

 
Strawberry Letter- Marriage Is A Journey

DEAR STEVE HARVEY AND SHIRLEY,

I'VE BEEN WITH MY SPOUSE SINCE I WAS 16, WE GOT MARRIED WHEN I WAS 20 AND MY SPOUSE IS 31. MY ISSUE IS WHEN ME AND MY SPOUSE GOT TOGETHER EVERYTHING WAS ALWAYS ALL GOOD. WE WERE ALWAYS TOGETHER IT WAS JUST PERFECT. I GOT PREGNANT WITH MY FIRST CHILD FOUR MONTHS AFTER WE STARTED DATING. HE HAS ALWAYS RESPECTED ME. MY HUSBAND WENT IN THE ARMY AFTER MY SONS FIRST BIRTHDAY. I WAS IN MY SENIOR YEAR OF HIGH SCHOOL AND I LET PEOPLE TALK ME INTO CHEATING ON MY BOYFRIEND AT THE TIME. HE DIDN'T FINISH BASIC TRAINING AND GOT OUT. WE GOT MARRIED IN 2006 I GOT MY FIRST FULL TIME JOB AT 21. IN 2007, MY HUSBAND WASN'T WORKING, SO I WAS LEFT TO TAKE CARE OF THE THREE OF US. WHEN I STARTED WORKING I MET THIS GUY THAT I STARTED TO LIKE AND I CHEATED AGAIN. WE HAD OUR SECOND CHILD IN 2009, AND I WAS STILL TAKING CARE OF THE FAMILY MY HUSBAND STILL WASN'T REALLY WORKING. I LEFT HIM THREE MONTHS AFTER MY DAUGHTER WAS BORN BECAUSE I WAS TIRED AND I FELT LIKE MY HUSBAND WASN'T TRYING DO ANY BETTER, AND HE DIDN'T WANNA TAKE CARE OF THE FAMILY. WE GOT BACK TOGETHER CAUSE A GUY I WAS TALKING TO DOGGED ME. IN 2010 I GOT MY SECOND FULL TIME JOB WHERE I STARTED MAKING MORE MONEY. I WAS STILL PULLING THE WAIT FOR THE FAMILY. I CROSSED PATHS WITH ANOTHER GUY THAT I ENDED UP MESSING AROUND WITH. THE POINT OF MY LETTER IS FROM 2007-2010 I CHEATED A FEW TIMES WITH OTHER MEN BECAUSE I FELT THEY WERE OFFERING ME SOMETHING THAT MY HUSBAND WASN'T BECAUSE THEY HAD A JOBS AND HE DIDN'T. HE WASN''T DOING HIS PART AS A MAN. IN 2012, I GOT TIRED AGAIN BECAUSE MY HUSBAND JUST WANTED TO DO WHAT HE WANTED TO DO. I GOT HIM A JOB WHERE I USED TO WORK AT BUT HE STILL WASN'T DOING HIS PART AS A MAN OR A HUSBAND. MY HUSBAND MOVED ON AND STARTED TALKING TO SOMEBODY ELSE TWO WEEKS AFTER I LEFT. AFTER TWO MONTHS OF BEING SEPARATED I DECIDED I WANTED MY HUSBAND BACK, AND HE JUST STRAIGHT GAVE ME HIS BUTT TO KISS. I CHASED HIM FOR THREE MONTHS WHILE HE JUST IGNORED ME, KEPT TALKING TO GIRLS ETC. HE FINALLY AGREED TO MOVE BACK IN WITH ME, BUT HE LATER ADMITTED THAT HE ONLY GOT BACK WITH ME AND MOVED IN WITH ME BECAUSE I WOULDN'T LEAVE HIM ALONE. HERE WE ARE TODAY, AND MY HUSBAND SAYS HE WANTS ME AND HE WANTS TO BE WITH ME BUT AT TIMES HE TREATS ME LIKE NOTHING. HE CALLS ME NAMES, TALKS TO ME ANY KIND OF WAY, PUTS ME DOWN, TELLS ME HOW MUCH HE IS TIRED OF THIS MARRIAGE AND ME, AND HOW HE DOESN'T CARE. BECAUSE OF EVERYTHING THAT I HAVE DONE I REALIZED THAT NONE OF IT WAS WORTH IT, AND I BEAT MYSELF UP ABOUT IT. AS A RESULT OF EVERYTHING THAT HAS HAPPENED I HAVE TRUST ISSUES. I ALWAYS QUESTION MY HUSBAND ABOUT HIS WHEREABOUTS, AND HIS MONEY. I HATE THE FACT THAT HE HAS ALL THESE FEMALE FRIENDS, AND HE WOULD RATHER SPEND TIME WITH HIS FRIENDS OVER ME. HE DOESN'T CARE HOW I FEEL ABOUT ANY OF THE THINGS HE DOES. HE STAYS OUT UNTIL 2,3, AND 4 IN THE MORNING. WE ARE LIVING WITH HIS PARENTS. WE WERE SUPPOSE TO GET A PLACE WHEN HE GOT HIS INCOME TAXES, AND ALL HE HAS DONE IS SPEND THE MONEY. ITS JUST SO MUCH. HE DOWNS ME BECAUSE I REALLY DON'T HAVE FRIENDS, AND I PREFER NOT TO HAVE MALE FRIENDS. I LOVE MY HUSBAND BUT I DON'T KNOW HOW MUCH MORE OF THE DISRESPECT, THE INSULTS, AND THE SELFISHNESS I CAN TAKE. WHATS A WOMAN TO DO???

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