Dear Steve and Shirley,
I am 19 years old and a junior in college. I have only had one boyfriend my entire life since I was 13, but recently I have broken up with him because I am involved with my boss. It was so weird how it started because he told me that he saw me as a daughter. I would always open up to him and talk to him about school and other issues. He would give me advice and I trusted him. He gave me his number when my grandmother was dying and told me I could talk to him anytime. So much happened in that month with my boyfriend and I having issues, my grandmother passing, working two jobs, moving out of my apartment, and taking classes for school. He decided to give me a key to his house and said it was nothing but a father and daughter relationship between us. I didn't have a relationship with my father and he knew this and I thought I could trust him. He also knew that my mother and I had communication problems as well. Soon after taking the key he came onto me and we had sex, then got into a relationship. After a month of dating I found out he lied about his age, him not having a girlfriend, and many other things. He is 53 years old and has another woman and other children in another state, and two daughters who are around my age. I am so hurt and confused of just why!!??. I broke up with my boyfriend to be with him and he lied to me about everything. I have also found out that he has a possible drug problem. I love him and he constantly flirts with other women at work. He has threatened me before and also told me he wants to get me pregnant so I can be his forever. He has hurt me countless times and when I talk to him about it he tells me I'm "bitching" and acting like a little girl. He says I need to grow up and realize that this is the real world and he is teaching me how to live in it. I just can't help how I feel. I feel like he took advantage of me. I don't want to be the victim in this because I am an adult, but I really trusted him and he let me down. He told me he wanted to marry me and be with me forever. Please help me because it is a distraction at work and school. It hurts sooo bad. I can't figure out what I did to him to betray me. I came to him for advice and help and now I'm hurting like I never have before.